How Boys Can Learn to Protect Themselves
The higher the position, the stronger the instinct for self-preservation must be.
On the surface, men seem to have many advantages in romantic relationships, but from a legal standpoint, they are actually in an overwhelmingly vulnerable position.
As long as you don’t make money, the world doesn’t demand anything from you; the more you earn, the more the world expects of you.
Where does the boundary lie? The boundary is that you must always respect women. The initiative belongs entirely to them—they are the director, not you.
For example, your name includes “Dong.” One day, a woman invites you to hook up. Halfway through, she says, “Dong, stop.”
If your hearing is poor and you interpret it as “don’t stop,” failing to stop immediately—sorry, you’ve committed a crime.
You think that’s unfair, right? Is bad hearing my fault?
She invited me, and now she’s yelling “cut” mid-scene—I have to cut. Has anyone considered my feelings? Sorry. Poor hearing is your fault. You can’t control yourself. When the director yells “cut,” if you don’t respond in time, that’s on you.
Boys need to learn how to protect themselves. Because a woman truly can manipulate you in a thousand ways: she’s allowed to hit you, but you’re not allowed to strike back. Boys must learn not only to guard against open attacks but also to dodge hidden arrows and recognize women’s traps.
When dealing with women, men should adopt the mindset of “don’t mess with me if you can’t handle the consequences, but you can certainly avoid trouble.” That’s the best way to protect yourself.
If every man followed this principle, there would be fewer conflicts. Want to make a joke? Poke fun at anyone but a man—how about roasting the men’s national football team? Go ahead.
As always: don’t provoke women. You can’t afford to.
Whenever your words touch on women, think before you speak. Not thinking is inviting trouble onto yourself.
A man who isn’t cautious in his dealings with women risks losing his job, suffering social ruin, or even facing total public shaming. There are countless precedents.