No expectations, no hurt, no bullshit.
Don't initiate, don't refuse, don't take responsibility. If you don't initiate, you don't have to be responsible. If you do initiate, you better have the capacity to take responsibility.
Fight, but preferably avoid taking hits yourself. Watching others get hit and learning from their experience is the right approach.
“How Steel Was Tempered” explains it clearly.
The “environment” is like a blast furnace — without enough heat, no one can change the nature of that ore.
“Essence” is about whether there’s iron in you at all. If yes, you can be forged into steel; if not, all you’ll get is slag.
Some people won’t be tested until pushed — but for many more, once pushed, you realize they’re genuinely incapable.
A person can’t live in a state of not knowing what the hell they’re doing.
You can game, you can fail your classes, you can drop out—前提是, you have to know what you’re doing.
You can game, but you need to clarify why exactly you’re gaming, what your expected outcome is, and how what you’re doing connects to that goal.
You can even drop out, but you need to lay out the plan and explain clearly what dropping out is actually for.
The fast track to success is paved with ultimate fighters—those who battle and drive along the bumpy toll roads where the price isn't something you can simply swipe a card for.
Now here's the good news for some: the toll weeds out the weak and reroutes them to the places ordinary people go. If you refuse to pay, wealth will refuse you. You need to be mentally ready to pay the price and handle whatever risk comes your way.