What if you have to marry Zhu Bajie?

It’s pretty simple—you’ll get used to it after a while, one step at a time. If you’ve already built the habits of previewing lessons before class, reviewing afterward, and practicing promptly since you were young, then by the time you reach senior year of high school, you’ll most likely become a top student—or at least on your way there—provided you don’t have any innate cognitive limitations.

In the first week, you might only manage four hours of focused self-discipline each day. By the second week, five. The third week, six. And by the fifth week, you’ll be hitting eight.

Your aesthetic sensibilities, your emotions—they can all be gradually reshaped. Happiness arises when your abilities exceed your desires; suffering comes when your desires outstrip your abilities. So either level up your capabilities or dial down your cravings.