Programmer’s Dating Guide

Common Tropes in Matchmaking
Recently returned from a big city: May have a problematic romantic history
UK/Australian master's: Famous "packaging" programs
Family is anxious: Her parents don't approve of her current boyfriend
Only mentions a decent family background: He's a giant baby
Cold and slow to warm up—aka stringing people along
Adding name to property in exchange for bride price—aka legal fraud
Divorced with流产, deceived by a渣男: Used to chase men aggressively 

1. Create as much information asymmetry as possible, hide weaknesses, exaggerate strengths to gain matchmaking advantages. Don't expose flaws that dig your own grave. If you don't brag, you can't compete with any opponent—your rivals are far bolder at exaggerating (some brag pre-marriage and owe debts post-marriage).

2. Unless you're from a prestigious family, avoid matchmaking in your hometown, especially those who actively introduce matches to you. They hold strong prejudices about family backgrounds, and their familiarity with your details is often too thorough. They're usually worse off than you. Were they truly kind and considerate toward you before the college entrance exam? Are they now? As the saying goes: "When the mother is weak, one becomes a merchant; when the father is strong, one becomes a minister." Families of high repute stay in their hometown, while those impoverished travel far away.

3. What women are often anxious about is that their families disagree with suitable matches for their daughters, leading to endless trouble later.

4. Even though some say they are cold and slow to warm up, that's only toward you. You won't get to see the side that pursues men aggressively and warms up quickly (as long as you dare to brag, you'll see it soon enough).

5. Try to avoid matchmaking with more experienced individuals, especially those who have had abortions or are divorced. Taking over such a situation will surely result in losses.

6.所谓考验、诚心、真心都是基于不喜欢的利益算计

7. Demanding bride price, property, or car names without emotional foundation is simply irrational.

8. Regarding spending: prioritize investing in yourself first, then research gifts, etc. Clothes, posture, skin, and conversation skills can all be reasonably polished with a few thousand yuan. There's no need to spend money on gifts, matchmaking, or dining out.

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