“会来事”是指一个人在社交场合中懂得察言观色、处理人际关系得体，能够根据具体情况灵活应对，让人舒服或觉得有面子。这个词通常带有正面的意味，表示此人善于交际、情商较高。

You must understand what your boss wants and what your key clients want. Don’t just focus on what you personally want.

Why was Lu Su such a trusted confidant to his leader? Because he truly understood him. Everyone else was spouting nonsense—debating whether fighting was good or surrendering was better. But privately, he told Boss Sun: we’re all just employees. Who we work for doesn’t matter. Maybe working for Cao Cao would even get us a promotion, since his organization is so much larger. But what about you, Boss Sun? If you surrender, what would you be able to do? Could you even work for Cao Cao? Would he trust you?

The biggest problem with people is that they obsess over what they themselves want, while remaining completely clueless about what their leaders and clients desire.

Before planning the strategy, plan for yourself first. You need to ensure you’re still in your position; only then can your plan be executed. If you’ve already been removed, how can anything get done? A commander leading troops into battle must first ensure he’s still in command, and only then focus on how to win.

When listening to Chinese people speak, don’t just listen to what they say—listen to what they’re not saying. What’s left unsaid is where their true interests and real constraints lie.

Only when you can see others’ interests and understand their hidden struggles can you achieve truly valuable communication.