Only by passing on a stable state to future generations have you fulfilled your historical mission.

Why did Emperor Wu of Han feel compelled to fight the Xiongnu? It wasn't a question of whether you want to be the leader, but whether you need to enter a stable state.
From ancient times to the modern era, from families to organizations, ultimately, the final purpose of initiating any action is to move from one stable state, through a series of unstable states, to finally settle into the next stable state.
You only fulfill your historical mission by passing on a stable state to future generations. Having this awareness is what we call strategic vision.

At the level of a small family, your role is the same. What stable state you want to secure for your family is the ultimate question you need to consider.