What Really Influences the Decisions of the Majority

It’s about who he lives with, what kind of people surround him, the things he and those around him have done together, the shared experiences they’ve had, and even the bonds that form between them. The people he keeps company with and the common experiences he accumulates are what fundamentally shape his sense of belonging.

That’s how you teach by example.

If your kid turns out to be likable, keep them close—don’t send them away, lest they form too many ties outside the province.

If they’re cut from a different cloth, just send them out. They’ll never make it. They’ll absolutely come crawling back. You can bank on it.