Everyone is gradually discovering what they want as they go through life’s experiences.

When the stakes are high, you don't want to figure out your needs by making mistakes the hard way. So look at other people's cases instead.

If only time could be turned back—but time can't. What you can do is talk to more people. Other people's lives become part of your life, a reference point for your own.

Watching someone else learn to swim won't make you a swimmer, but it will ease your doubts and make the water feel less foreign. Then, add your own flailing in the pool, and you'll gradually find your balance.