Dajia Picks

Many things cut both ways. The more people butter you up, the bolder you get, and before long you cross a line—then overnight everyone who praised you will turn on you, and you won’t even have a chance to backpedal.

Only a father and son dare speak such unwelcome truths to each other. Outsiders are there to pile on when you’re down or pour salt on your wounds—very few actually have your best interests at heart.

So give others face, but don’t go around seeking it for yourself.

Essentially, rape is rape when the woman is unwilling.

When people treat you with courtesy, it’s usually for one of four reasons.

1. Status. 2. Ability. 3. Age. 4. Gender.

When you haven't achieved results yet, what you should do first is get results. In the process of doing things, you'll naturally come to understand the various methods used by those who came before you.

Slowly, you'll realize: when they're tough, it's to win; when they're soft, it's to win; when they're forceful, it's to win; and when they play peacemaker, it's also to win.

A person first prioritizes their own interests—putting survival before objectives.

If you want someone to work toward a goal, that goal must align with their personal interests—making the pursuit of the objective identical to the pursuit of their own well-being. Only when there are clear rewards for success and consequences for failure, with authority matching responsibility, will they truly take initiative.