The details that are meticulously planned in advance—the lines of advance, lines of retreat, and supply routes—are what truly define a mature strategist.
When others know they'll benefit from following you, you naturally end up in charge.
Your position requires you to keep talking—me, I don't need anything. Everything belongs to everyone; it's just that the brothers are doing well. Someone needs to handle that for you. What you're truly facing is how to maintain balance.
You need to keep at least more than half of the vested interest parties satisfied in order to maintain the balance of the big ship.
They want both substance and face, both practical value and emotional value. Most people don't actually want to solve problems — they want the approval of others, and to be immersed in a value system validated by others.
And when you're willing to provide this cost-free emotional currency, you effectively control what gives other people meaning.
In the episode where Sun Wukong beats the White Bone Demon three times, why was he driven away? Because you ate that tough meal far too harshly. Did the demon reveal its true form? Did it commit any evil deeds?
No true form appeared, no evil was done—were you really fighting a demon? You were clearly slapping your leader’s face.
Your approach was too domineering; you made your leader uncomfortable.
If you only realize a problem exists when it's already right in front of you—or if you had zero preparation going in—don't even think about it. Chaos will never be a ladder for you.
It's not about logic; it's about love, incentives, and the art of coaxing—the real trump card for dealing with kids.