If you know in advance what someone will base their judgment on, and you can steer them like leading an ox, that's called expectation management.
Expectation management is that useful. The earlier you accept it, the earlier you benefit. The later you accept it, the longer you'll keep getting battered by society.
所谓 “hard” means he has raised the cost of continuing your attack this time; “horizontal” means he has long-term increased the cost of your continuing your attack; and “desperate” means he has made you realize that you can’t win—either you surrender halfway or it’s a lose-lose, a deadlock.
A fine horse, upon seeing the shadow of the whip, will instantly surge into a gallop. An inferior horse must be struck on the rear by the whip, feel the pain, and then it is forced to run. People are no different.
Some people, upon hearing a word, immediately empathize and make decisive choices; while others must wait until they have no way out, until they are completely out of options, and have personally experienced it themselves, before they say, "Well, can I reconsider?"Of course not.
If everyone feels they've incurred opportunity costs, they'll end up trash-talking each other, each spinning their own narrative.
No one enters marriage with the intention of being the sucker. Not one. Even in so-called charity marriages, both parties believe they're going to get something out of it beforehand. It's only when those expectations aren't met that they turn on each other, claiming they're the victim and were deceived.