You’re not jealous of others’ flexing — you just hate it when it throws off your own groove.

You're not bitter about other people's showing off—you're just thrown off by it.
Skipping the comparison game means either you know you'll lose, or...
You only care about real benefits and completely ignore the highlight reel.
Unless being in the spotlight pays off, you won't bother.
After all, the more visible you are, the more dangerous it gets; the more hidden you stay, the safer you are.
If you give up some of your safety, you better get something in return—otherwise, nobody's making that deal.