Where is the main problem of most people?

Your desired answer is tens of thousands of miles away from the standard answer. Your psychological expectations far exceed the rate of return that a standard answer could deliver.

Like eating—when you ask about food, is it really just about eating?

If it truly were, would you eat a cornbread bun? Would you eat cabbage stalks? Since you wouldn’t, this isn’t about eating; it’s about what kind of food you want.

Once you elevate the question to “what kind of food,” you’ll immediately realize there’s no standard answer.

You’re asking for too much.